First: Mental PreparationThe first thing you need isn't the wedding survival kit. You will want that, but first you have to accept that in all likelihood something will go wrong. It could be something small; like a groomsmen might wear the wrong colored socks. Or it could be something big; like the caterer mistook your order and instead of bringing enough food for 500 people, they bring enough for 50. Either way, if you accept it now, even if it is stressful, it won't completely ruin your day. Though, a catering mishap like that would be completely understandable to freak out over!
Next: Make a listDelegate! I know some brides don't want to let go of the control, but it's in your best interest if you do. Take an evening with your groom and make a list of all the things you are most worried about. What do you think is going to go wrong? Then pick a person for each worry and put them in charge of making sure that it won't happen. Your bridal party members are perfect for this! However, if your big worry is that the best man will forget to pick up grammy from the airport, maybe assign someone else to remind him or to just take over that task for him!
Then: Make a contingency plan for the major detailsThis is along the same lines as number two, but with a focus on the BIG things and not so much on the little details. For example, if the catering mishap described at the beginning of the blog did happen, what would be your back up plan? Take a look at the biggest part of the wedding - your venue, caterer, photographer, entire floral delivery - and decide on back ups if they should somehow fall through.
Finally: Bring a Wedding Survival KitNow this is one that you can just buy, pack in your bag, and then just know you are covered! Get a "Personalized Vintage Clutch" survival kit here with emergency items, such as bobby pins and a sewing kit. Then, if anything should happen to your hair, your dress, your mother's dress - you know you got it covered! There are even some for the groom!
How to Tell Someone They Won't be a BridesmaidWhen you get engaged you are going to be face with a million decisions big and small. One of which will be who to include in your bridal party. This can be difficult if you have a lot of friends and family members that you care about and have been important parts of your life. Really, to have so many people in your life that are important to you is a blessing, but when it comes to narrowing it down for your bridesmaids, it becomes a curse. First, there are all the women that you want to ask to be a bridesmaid, then there are those that you are obligated to have as a bridesmaid, and finally, there are those that expect to be a bridesmaid. For the women you want in your bridal party, it is easy as pie. Those that you are obligated to have may cause a little stress if your numbers are getting too high, but obligation doesn't always mean you wouldn't want them in your bridal party anyway. Really, the problem child in this group are those that expect to be a bridesmaid. When you are choosing your bridesmaid, chances are you really want all those girls in your life as bridesmaids, but you can't have everyone. So, when you have friends or family that make it clear that they expect to be asked, it can make things really hard. Note to friends of the newly engaged bride: It is an honor to be asked to be in the bridal party, but it is also NOT a statement to not be asked. So, don't call up your newly engaged friend and chat about how excited you are to be a bridesmaid. Call them up and congratulate them. It is, after all, not about you! So, how do you tell someone important to you that you won't be asking them to be in the bridal party?
- Take a Deep Breath: Remind yourself that this day is about you and not them. Of course you don't want to be rude, but you don't need to accommodate anyone either.
- Talk in Person: If it is someone that expects or would be expected to be a bridesmaid, it is a good idea to talk to them in person, especially if it is family.
- Don't list off the people you did ask: If they really wanted to be a bridesmaid, but didn't make the cut, don't remind them of everyone that did.
- Keep it simple: You can explain to them that they are important and that you want them involved, but that you only had a limited number of people you could ask. Just don't tell them why you decided to pick someone else over them.
Special Touch Flower Girl Baskets As one of the first to walk down the aisle, the flower girl is one of the first introductions to your wedding party look, so what you put your flower girl in can work to help set the tone. Flower girl dresses can be made to look like mini versions of the bridesmaid dresses, the wedding dress, or can be its own unique design that is in those wedding colors or wedding theme. One accessory that a flower girl can't go without is her flower basket! Like her dress, there are a variety of different designs you can choose from, but don't let yourself get too locked in to a typical flower basket and have some fun with it!
This flower basket (Taupe Pleated Silk Flower Basket) is not one that is necessarily out of the basket thinking, but it offers a put together look that will add style to your wedding. What is beautiful about this basket is that it offers a textured look, the cuteness of a bow, and a contrast to the starch white that is often featured in the flower girl look. So if you are looking to put your flower girl in white, we recommend using a colored basked like the one above to add dimension to your flower girl's color palette.
Similarly to the taupe pleated flower basket, this lace and burlap basket offers up texture, color, and fashion. Additionally, it is completely one trend and works great across multiple wedding themes, including but not limited to country western, shabby chic, vintage, and fairy tale. With this in mind, one thing to look for when looking at a flower basket - just as with any wedding accessory - is to find one that adds to or otherwise incorporates your wedding theme. Thus, if you are having a beach themed wedding, then you will want a beach oriented flower girl basket!
Then there are the non-basket flower baskets. A lot of brides are incorporating buckets or boxes instead of a basket. The above "Rose" flower basket is sort of in between in that it will be carried exactly like a basket, but its flower design sets it apart from its wicker basket kin. These are the type of flower baskets that really open the door for you to get creative.
2 Gifts to Make the Father of the Bride Feel Special
All of the time when people think about weddings they first think of the bride and then of the mother and the bride and how exciting it must be for the mom, but there are a lot of daddy's girls out there and fathers that would even surprise their daughters with how excited they are for their daughter. Father's have a tendency of showing a little extra emotion on the day of his baby girls wedding. We want to help you highlight the role he has in your wedding and in your life. Here are two simple ways to help you let your father know what he means to you!
- Gift him With Special cuff links to Proudly Wear on the Wedding day.Cuff links are a perfect way to give your dad a little something extra that designates him as the father of the bride. You can bet that he will wear these proudly and may even find an excuse to wear them at his next business meeting or with his Sunday best!
- Give him a sentimental wedding handkerchief.
Many a retrospective and once-overly-enthusiastic bride will tell you this: don't pick your bridal party too early. If you're still more than a year away from the wedding, keep your #1 pick for Maid of Honor and Flower Girl under wraps. Relationships change, people move away or begin doctorate programs. While your bridal party has only one responsibility - showing up and wearing nice, pre-selected clothes - you want to be sure that the men and women in your line are the friends and family you really want behind you on your wedding day. There's no harm in just waiting it out! Snapping Engagement Photos
Even though they're called "engagement photo shoots" they don't have to be planned and finished within the first few weeks of your engagement. The point of an engagement photo shoot is to showcase your relationship in an environment in which you feel comfortable during a particularly happy time in your life. Some couples choose to use these photos in their "save the dates" or wedding invitations, but by no means is that a requirement. If you're already overburdened with other wedding woes, don't feel that you have to squeeze an engagement photo shoot in as well. Then again, if you could really use an afternoon of looking pretty and exploring your favorite museum or tide pool with your puppy and fiancé, go right ahead! Selecting Wedding Gifts
Gifts are fun, and pre-planning gifts for your wedding can be just as enjoyable, but it can also take a lot out of you. Registering takes way more energy than you might think, and registering too early can spell disaster for your "early bird" wedding planning ideals. If you register more than a few months ahead of when your invitations go out, you run the risk of items being discontinued and matching dish sets being broken up. My advice is to go through retailers' websites, mark items that you're interested in, and put that list aside for later. Save the physical registration process for just a few months before the big day to save an even bigger hassle later.