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Engaged on Valentine's Day?

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Engaged on Valentine's Day?

Valentine's day is typically a holiday that people see as a dividing holiday; those in love and those that are not. This is has always been something that makes me sad because the heart and sole of Valentine's day is to celebrate love. It doesn't necessarily have to be romantic love either. Everyone loves and is loved by someone somewhere. Be it a best friend, a family member, or a significant other. This concept of enjoying and celebrating love is what makes Valentine's day so wonderful, romantic, and a perfect day to pop that big question.     Ruffled Dreamy Valentine’s Day If you watch that Facebook feed you may find that so many couples get engaged on Valentine's Day. It isn't unoriginal and it doesn't take away from your engagement. Think about how excited you are right now. Now think about the idea that hundreds or more other women are just as excited as you are. Is it not amazing to think that there are so many women and couples that are happy and excited and not weighed down right now? And you get to be a part of it! Now, with so many couples getting engaged on Valentine's Day, that makes the day after a day of perusing wedding sites and starting to realize how many decisions and tasks go into putting together your dream wedding. Don't stress! One of the many benefits of not being the first woman to ever have to plan her wedding is that there are tons of resources and tools that will help you handle the madness that truly can be wedding planning. Ruffled Fuchsia + Yellow Valentine’s Day Here are a list of Blogs and Resources that may be Helpful to you: While I do believe it will be a good idea for you to peruse through these resources, particularly those that will help you get organized, I would like to implement the 3-day rule. While this is typically applied to calling after that wonderful first date, it needs to be applies to that wonderful engagement as well. For those first three days after being engaged enjoy it. Get excited, maybe browse wedding pictures, but otherwise avoid the pressure of already planning the wedding. You should celebrate for a few breaths before you dive into the wedding celebrations. Take three days to just be happy. Then dive in! Ruffled Dreamy Valentine’s Day So if you were one of those lucky ladies that got engaged on Valentine's Day, get offline now and go cuddle with your fiance!
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Concerns for the Newly Engaged

A good friend and colleague of mine got engaged over the weekend, and was full of questions when she was back to work. Most of them built up to one bigger concern – where should she even start? If you have a tentative wedding date in mind as soon as you’re engaged, there are a few things you should consider before you start looking through specific details for your day. Before you start picking out centerpieces and trying on dresses, jot these down in a newly purchased wedding planner:   Figure out a guest list
You won’t need a set-in-stone guest list until you send your save-the-dates or invites before your wedding, but all of your other decisions depend on at least a fuzzy picture of who you expect to be attending your big day. A guest list of 50 versus 100 will change the way you spend your $5,000 budget. Much like the earlier budget decision, your thoughts on your guest list composition will color the picture you’ll start to craft of your ideal wedding. This decision is best left for after determining your budget. You can always scale your budget down, but it’s harder to do that with a guest list once you have your heart set on the friends and family you hope to see on your wedding day.   Figure out a budget
It’s easy to get swept up in the romance of a new engagement, but making decisions, even small ones like linens and candles, without a budget can really throw a wrench into the wedding experience. If you get your heart set on a venue or guest list without first figuring out what you can afford, you’ll find yourself disappointed way ahead of time. Even if your wedding is far off in the future, or you know that you’ll need to save up a bit before you start committing to definite plans, know what your end goal is before searching for inspiration online. Have a dollar amount in mind so you aren’t reaching for the moon during your preemptive planning. Weddings can be spectacular on any budget, so don’t fret!   Enjoy the moment!
For the moment, stop planning and start enjoying being engaged. Take your nose out of Pinterest and enjoy some time to yourselves. This is especially important now, as relatives and friends will likely be asking about wedding plans in droves. A simple “we really haven’t started thinking about it yet” will allow some time to digest your ideal plans in favor of some more realistic ones before you start leaking details. Let it settle, enjoy the enthusiasm around you, and start seriously planning a few months down the road.

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