Wedding Thank You Notes Etiquette
Thank you notes are perceived as being one of the last stops of the wedding train. In a way, they are, but in order for you not to drown in envelopes, hand cramps, envelope moisteners, and gift lists, some thank you cards can be done along the way. For example, your bridal shower thank you notes should be sent out within a week, with a special note or gift to whoever hosted. Also, when you get gifts that come in the mail, you should go ahead and write your thank you note right after you open the wrapping. So what happens when you wait till after the honeymoon to send out your thank yous? Well...then you got to get a move on!
What time frame to write your thank you notes?
Some people say that newlyweds have a year after their wedding to send out all their thank you notes, and while you can consider that year mark as that absolute deadline, it is best to get them out within the first four months after your wedding. Like I noted above, thank you's for bridal shower gifts, those who hosted celebrations, or otherwise assisted with your wedding, should be sent out within two weeks.
What do you say in a thank you note?
Even if the gift or service is coming from someone that you may not be one hundred percent chummy with, the number one concern with a thank you note is to be genuine. This means using a stationary that is not pre-written or fill in the blank. Furthermore, in your personalized note, don't exaggerate or overly gush about how their gift is your favorite, especially if its not. Then, on the other hand, don't inform them that you are returning their gift because they were the fourth person to give you a crock-pot. Simply give your appreciation for the thought and time in which they have supported your new adventure. For guests that gift you with money or gift cards, if you know how you are going to use the money, feel free to tell them.