If you're asking this question, chances are you're leaning towards not, but are feeling some pressure to do so. A lot of the time deciding not to hire a wedding planner is either because you don't have the budget for one or because you don't want someone else planning a day you've been dreaming about for years. We get it. To answer you're question simply: No, you don't really need a wedding planner. However, wedding planners can be a huge asset, especially if you've planning a large or destination wedding. Plus, wedding planners come in many different shapes and sizes. So you'll likely find a wedding planner that fits your wants and needs, while also fitting a budget.
How to know if you should hire a wedding planner.If you can say yes to the one or more of the following, a wedding planner may be exactly what you need:
- There are too many people providing or insisting upon conflicting input on how the wedding should be.
- You're having a destination wedding.
- You don't have any reliable sources to find quality wedding vendors.
- You don't have any outside help from family or friends to get everything done.
- You and or your future spouse are unable to meet with vendors during the week.
What type of wedding planner should you hire?Whether you are concerned about your budget or about having more control and involvement in the process, the good news is that you have a lot of different options that go beyond the traditional, full-service wedding planner. For example, a budget friendly option is an À La Carte Planner. This would be a planner that works with you part-time and on a need basis. Usually they charge an hourly rate or flat fee for the specific services and projects you want them to help you with. Another budget friendly option that works for brides that want to be in complete control of the wedding planning, but to sit back and enjoy the wedding day is a Day-of Coordinator. This type of wedding planner simply coordinates everything on the day of your wedding. They'll be working with the vendors, keeping everything on schedule, and organizing any post wedding clean ups. Then, if you have no idea what you want your wedding to look like or have a very big and unique vision, you might consider an event designer. This is someone that would work alongside you or a more traditional wedding planner. They don't handle any of the logistics or budget tracking. They are focused on coordinating with vendors only to create the vision and design. A full service wedding planner, of course, does everything. They handle the bringing the vision to life through design and logistics. This doesn't mean they take over and you don't get a say. It simply means that you have an expert to help make what you want happen and that knows what the best options really are. Plus, anything you don't want to deal with can be completely handled by the wedding planner.
But, do you HAVE to hire a wedding planner?? Like, really?Do you have to hire a wedding planner for your big day to be wonderful? Of course not. Can it make it easier to enjoy the process and prevent any hiccups along the way? Definitely. Ultimately, and as always, the decision is yours!
Check out Exquisite Bride If we are all being honest here, we know that there is a certain level of stress to be expected in planning an event like a wedding. Below are five strategies to help you keep that stress level down, if not get rid of stress entirely!
Hire a Wedding Planner that you TrustA wedding planner can truly be a godsend when getting ready for your wedding day. Which is why hiring one is on our de-stress list! Your planner takes the brunt of the work while you point, say yes, no, and describe your dream wedding. We have one recommendation though: make sure the wedding planner you hire is the right fit before you dive deep! You may hear every once in awhile a horror story about a wedding planner that "ruined" the wedding day. This is why it is important to hire someone after you have met with a few different planners and been able to sift through a few reviews. Then, when you do hire someone, make sure communication is easy, open, and clear. Often these horror story wedding planners come more from a miscommunication of expectations, rather than complete incompetence.
Give Yourself Enough TimeIf you are planning a big wedding, you have to know that you will need a big timeline. A time crunch is often one of the biggest stresses of wedding planning. Do yourself a favor and pick a wedding date far enough out to actually accomplish the creation of your dream wedding. With that being said, you also have to stay on the ball and not procrastinate your planning! Give yourself time and you will give yourself peace!
Go on a Mini-VacationIf you feel the stress mounting, take a break. Go on a weekend getaway and forget about wedding plans for a few days. OR if you don't feel you can take a weekend, enjoy a spa day or doing something you truly enjoy and leave that wedding planning binder at home!
Don't Take it too SeriouslyYour wedding is meant to be enjoyed. It doesn't matter if you are going for an elegant affair or playing it up with a Shrek Fairy tale theme. If you can't let go and see that in the long run, something going wrong on the wedding day isn't the end of the world. Well...let's just say that the chances that everything is exactly perfect for the entire processes is slim and you should be enjoying your last days while you can.
Journal TherapyThis one is easy. Unless you absolutely hate writing, but even then, you can modify it to your needs. Journal writing (venting) is a great way to release your pent up stress, sort through your feelings, and gain perspective. Keep a wedding journal to help you manage your stress AND document memories of the days leading up to that magical "I Do".
You love kids. You have kids. Your sister has six kids. Everyone has kids. You are totally cool with everyone bringing their kids to your wedding. BUT Weddings tend to be formal events and even if you are not a super formal gal, you probably don't want your nephews having an epic sword fight during your first dance. (If I am super off base and you totally would love this, you can find some great play swords here.) To prevent the adorable chaos that can turn into the kind of chaos that leads to wedding fails, there are a few measures you can take if you are going to allow kids at your wedding.
Here are three to get you going!
- Set the expectation that the parents of the kids are in charge of their own kids. This may seem silly, but it isn't a bad idea to spread the word that while their kids our welcome, parents should remember to keep an eye on their own kids. A lot of parents have limited nights out and may want to take advantage of not having to pay a babysitter and having so many adults that can be their eyes while they relax a little.
- In the same breath, hire a sitter or find a volunteer or two to run kid activities during the reception. These people will be less in charge of the kids as they are in charge of manning the kid tables or and games you have for the kids to play. You don't need a ton, just a few to keep those little hands busy and safe while your dad gives a toast or two. Think craft table and bean bag games!
- Have a mini kid menu. Don't waste the delicious and expensive food on little tummies that won't touch it. Have some mac and cheese and chicken nugget option specific for the kids.
What is the Big Fake Wedding event?
Looking for a fun way to explore wedding vendors and get a taste of what you want your wedding to not only look like in pieces, but together as a whole? Try attending a Big Fake Wedding event! It is exactly what it sounds like - a fake wedding put together with real vendors. It is attended by brides and designed to connect you to exactly what it is that you want. Right from the horses mouth, The Big Fake Wedding is a "a bridal show alternative complete with an emotional vow renewal ceremony, light bites, and a dance-party reception". Doesn't that sound so fun? Before attending the event, you can look at their inspiration board. This will help to get a feel of if it is a style you would be interested in. What's more is tickets to attend the events are only $25. So, you don't have to spend a lot to get connected to vendors your love!
Even if you prefer the ease of shopping online, attending an even like this is a great way to get a better idea of what it is you want. This is an especially good idea if you haven't attended a lot of weddings. It can be a little scary to just order items for your wedding online, especially when you see online shopping fails turned into memes. Once you've seen in person what it is you like, it will be less overwhelming looking through cake toppers online.
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Start your wedding registry today using these tips! Rubber Duck bride and groom? Yes please! Get these cuties here
1) Keep it Balanced:Some couples look at a wedding registry and think of it as an opportunity to get everything high end and others feel bad about asking their friends and family to spend money on them and register for the cheapest versions of everything they need. The goal is to keep it balanced. Decide on what items you want to last and choose the better and more expensive version. Then, items that don't need to cost $50, like a toothbrush holder, maybe pick what is practical.
2) Be Specific:It might be frustrating if your not sure what you want exactly or you might be trying to give your guests options, but being general or giving multiple options for the same product can be annoying. For example, you don't need to register for three toasters of three different prices. Just pick the one you want and if you don't get it, buy the one you can afford. Or, you may just end up with three toasters and no gift receipts.
3) Keep it Together:This kind of goes along with number two in that you don't want to have your wedding guests trying to decipher your registry. So, if you have a very specific wish list from many different shops, then you''ll want to use a website our app that lets you have multiple shops on one registry. Imagine your registry insert listing ten different shops! No bueno! Also, just like with number two, don't put the same item on different registries. No need to worry about if your guests frequent one shop over the other. That's not a real turn off for gift buying for a special occasion.
4) Go Beyond the Kitchen:Chances are, you have the basics for a college dorm and are going to need a lot in order to have a fully loaded kitchen with knives that don't rust after their first use. Furthermore, kitchen items add up fast, so you may be tempted to fill your registry with kitchen items and then you forget to thoughtfully decide on items for your living space, bathroom, bedroom and even your lifestyle. One example of a great forgotten gift due to the kitchenware mania board games! Board games are so seventh grade? Try hosting a night in with friends and twiddle your thumbs awkwardly after dinner.
What other tips would you give to a new bride and groom as they create their wedding registry?
With so many pieces and players involved in a wedding, there are bound to be a few mishaps. Never fear! There's a wedding survival kit and plan to prepare for the "oops", "oh no", and "I forgot" wedding emergencies. Here's what you do:
First: Mental PreparationThe first thing you need isn't the wedding survival kit. You will want that, but first you have to accept that in all likelihood something will go wrong. It could be something small; like a groomsmen might wear the wrong colored socks. Or it could be something big; like the caterer mistook your order and instead of bringing enough food for 500 people, they bring enough for 50. Either way, if you accept it now, even if it is stressful, it won't completely ruin your day. Though, a catering mishap like that would be completely understandable to freak out over!
Next: Make a listDelegate! I know some brides don't want to let go of the control, but it's in your best interest if you do. Take an evening with your groom and make a list of all the things you are most worried about. What do you think is going to go wrong? Then pick a person for each worry and put them in charge of making sure that it won't happen. Your bridal party members are perfect for this! However, if your big worry is that the best man will forget to pick up grammy from the airport, maybe assign someone else to remind him or to just take over that task for him!
Then: Make a contingency plan for the major detailsThis is along the same lines as number two, but with a focus on the BIG things and not so much on the little details. For example, if the catering mishap described at the beginning of the blog did happen, what would be your back up plan? Take a look at the biggest part of the wedding - your venue, caterer, photographer, entire floral delivery - and decide on back ups if they should somehow fall through.
Finally: Bring a Wedding Survival KitNow this is one that you can just buy, pack in your bag, and then just know you are covered! Get a "Personalized Vintage Clutch" survival kit here with emergency items, such as bobby pins and a sewing kit. Then, if anything should happen to your hair, your dress, your mother's dress - you know you got it covered! There are even some for the groom!
What is the number one mistake made while wedding planning?Wedding planning can be stressful. There are so many little details that go into planning the perfect wedding. From the cake topper, to the wedding shoes, brides and grooms comb over every detail to make their wedding day perfect. Sometimes things go wrong. For example, your cake might melt and start to slant because it was put in the sun. Those types of "mistakes" are not however going to make or break the wedding day. This isn't going to be a list of mistakes a bride can make when planning her wedding day that includes picking the right brides maid gifts. That type of shopping advice can come another day. Are you ready to know what is the biggest mistake a bride and groom can make? Here it is: The number one mistake during wedding planning is thinking that the wedding day is actually the most important day of your lives.
What is the most important day of a bride and groom's life?The wedding day is a spectacular, special day for a couple in love. BUT, it is not the most important day in a married couples life. Those days come later - and aren't so much days, but moments. Having the perfect wedding dress will be overshadowed by the moment you have your first fight, but know that no matter what its going to be okay because you made a vow for better or for worse. Smashing cake in your spouses face will be out-shinned when you're vomiting and your significant other runs in to hold your hair away from your face. The most important day are all the days in your happily ever after. So when your shopping for the perfect wedding accessories, make sure your having fun! Enjoy the moment and don't tear yourself into pieces about something not being perfect! You are in love! And while you are enjoying the bliss of wedding planning love, take a look at Wedding Collectibles wedding cake toppers; because buying a wedding cake topper here, will never be a mistake
How to Get What You Want for Your WeddingSaying "no" while planning your wedding may seem like a natural reflex to some brides, but may actually prove difficult to others who cannot seem to be comfortable with asserting what they want when it comes in conflict with someone else's wants. Which is really a more complicated way of saying they are people pleasers and can't give up on their people pleasing way. Really, it can be a good thing to be so aware of other people, but sometimes that awareness can turn into substituting anything you need and want to providing the needs and wants to other people. One of the biggest times in a people pleaser's life where they are going to not want to compromise what they want for other people is their wedding day. Your wedding day is suppose to be all about you and to help you celebrate your love. So when it comes to planning this special day, you need to go with the mindset that yes, there is an "I" in "Team". How to Assert What You Want - No Matter What
- Privately (or with your fiancé) make a list of things that you really want for your wedding. If you need to, force yourself to "play pretend" a perfect scenario where there are not going to be any conflicts or compromises to be made. What do you want in its most raw version.
- Pick a supportive right hand man to help you plan. When it comes to family, moms, and in-laws, you are going to want someone in your corner that is not going to let you compromise your wants to please someone else. This can be a best friend, a sister, cousin, your mom, and even a wedding planner. You just need to figure out who is going to be your best advocate and who you will listen to when they tell you "no, you don't need to move your wedding venue to make it easier on such-n-such".
- Say "No" early. The first time someone suggests or even pushes for something that you don't want for your wedding, put your foot down. Don't say maybe or that you will think about it. Just say no. This could be something as simple as the flavor of wedding cake or as big as having a friend be your wedding photographer. Once you start saying no, it will be easier for you in the future because you will get use to saying and the people around you will be used to hearing it.