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Elopement Etiquette | What you need to know!

Is there such a thing as Elopement Etiquette?

Planning a wedding today takes a lot of time and money. Which tends to equal stress. The average cost of a traditional wedding is upwards of $20,000! This rules out the budget of a lot of newly engaged couples. Pamela Paul, author of The Starter Marriage and Future of Matrimony, says "They're sort of thinking it's either $25,000 on a wedding or $25,000 on a down payment.” So it makes sense that couples are choosing to elope more now than ever before and are asking if there really is an elopement etiquette. Traditional or not, Elopements are in! Elopement Etiquette Eloping has had a negative connotation in the past. However, it’s not about rebellious teenage courthouse hitchings anymore. Instead, it's couples choosing intimacy and affordability. A typical elopement today is more defined by simplicity, a beautiful destination, and a short guest list. This turn from the rebellious to being a type of wedding means that you have some elopement etiquette that you can use to guide your wedding planning.

Elopement Planning

First off, spending a little time planning will make your small wedding personalized, less stressful, and more memorable. Actually, businesses are starting up around the country to help! For example, “Flora Pop” is a traveling pop-up elopement company offering planning services for small ceremonies of 15 people or less.

Elopement Etiquette

Whether you wait until after the deed is done or you’re inviting them to attend, let your family know! A personal invite over the phone or even sending a formal card works fine. Do what makes the most sense for you!
Are you a wanderlust bride?
Avoid unpleasant surprises by taking into account questions like these when planning your destination ceremony:
  • Is there a waiting period after your marriage license application?
  • What documentation is required (drivers license, birth certificate, divorce decree from former marriage, etc.)?
  • What is the cost of a marriage license?
  • How much does the pastor or judge charge to perform the ceremony?
  • How much does it cost to hold the wedding at the venue of your choice?

Next, Consider the No-Brainers of a Traditional Wedding for your Elopement

Send marriage announcements!
Let your friends and family celebrate with you even if they couldn't be there on your special day! After some enough time has passed for them to receive the announcement, try sending them an email with photos of your wedding and honeymoon! Why?They’ll get a sense of involvement this way and will enjoy hearing about your adventures. Plus, you may not want a big wedding, but that doesn't mean you don't want to share the best day of your life with all the people you love. This is a great way to do just that.
To register or not to register?
Go for it, especially if you are having a small post-marriage reception! Really, it's a good idea to let your loved ones support you. Plus, it's never a bad thing to let them shower you with gifts as you start your life as a married couple. You can always add your registry to your marriage announcement. Although, you don’t want to forget to send thank you cards out as soon as possible!
What other considerations would you recommend taking for a small elopement ceremony?

Share with us in the comments below or comment #wedcollectibles on social media with your ideas.

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How to Tell Someone They Won't be a Bridesmaid

How to Tell Someone They Won't be a Bridesmaid

Bridesmaids When you get engaged you are going to be face with a million decisions big and small. One of which will be who to include in your bridal party. This can be difficult if you have a lot of friends and family members that you care about and have been important parts of your life. Really, to have so many people in your life that are important to you is a blessing, but when it comes to narrowing it down for your bridesmaids, it becomes a curse. First, there are all the women that you want to ask to be a bridesmaid, then there are those that you are obligated to have as a bridesmaid, and finally, there are those that expect to be a bridesmaid. For the women you want in your bridal party, it is easy as pie. Those that you are obligated to have may cause a little stress if your numbers are getting too high, but obligation doesn't always mean you wouldn't want them in your bridal party anyway. Really, the problem child in this group are those that expect to be a bridesmaid. When you are choosing your bridesmaid, chances are you really want all those girls in your life as bridesmaids, but you can't have everyone. So, when you have friends or family that make it clear that they expect to be asked, it can make things really hard. Note to friends of the newly engaged bride: It is an honor to be asked to be in the bridal party, but it is also NOT a statement to not be asked. So, don't call up your newly engaged friend and chat about how excited you are to be a bridesmaid. Call them up and congratulate them. It is, after all, not about you! So, how do you tell someone important to you that you won't be asking them to be in the bridal party?
  1. Take a Deep Breath: Remind yourself that this day is about you and not them. Of course you don't want to be rude, but you don't need to accommodate anyone either.
  2. Talk in Person: If it is someone that expects or would be expected to be a bridesmaid, it is a good idea to talk to them in person, especially if it is family.
  3. Don't list off the people you did ask: If they really wanted to be a bridesmaid, but didn't make the cut, don't remind them of everyone that did.
  4. Keep it simple: You can explain to them that they are important and that you want them involved, but that you only had a limited number of people you could ask. Just don't tell them why you decided to pick someone else over them.
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Bridesmaid Gifts: Three Options for a Great Gift

Bridesmaid Gifts Why They are Necessary To Answer the question, "Do you have to give out bridesmaid gifts?", the answer is technically no, but YES.  Each and every Bride is unique in taste, style, and situation, so to say you have to do anything might seem silly, but it is better etiquette to give gifts. Why? The girls or women you ask to be your bridesmaids, well, they are your girls! You ask them because they are your family, your best friends,and the girls that have been there for you always, so now that you have set them apart from the rest, it is the perfect opportunity for you to say thank you. You are saying thank you for their support and help in planning your big day and for all their love and support throughout life. It is kind of a big deal.  3 Ideas for a GREAT Bridesmaid Gift

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  1. Jewelry: You might see this as a duh gift, but that is just what makes it number one on our list. Jewelry is great because you can use it to say something sentimental, sweet, and just-between-you-two.  Wedding Collectibles has a wide selection of unique necklaces and bracelets, as well as a selection that can be engraved in order to personalize it for each of your bridesmaids. When deciding on a gift, we suggest to really stop and consider what it is your bridesmaids will appreciate most, which is why we highly recommend necklaces like the one above.  This is a gift that could be worn at the wedding, and your bridesmaids could wear it throughout their everyday life. Additionally, if you want to do something a little extra, a necklace, bracelet, or pair of earrings, can be given alongside a jewelry boxWhite 3pc. Ikat Print iPhone 5, iPad Case & Sleeve Set - Save 20%
  2. Technology Cases: This gift might seem a little less affectionate, but it is perfect for a bride and bridal party that lives right along the pulse of modern society. You can decide between a bright or more subtle color pallet, to choose to give a set for all their technology devices or to just pick one, and you have the option of cases that can have the bridesmaids entire name on it or just her initials. It's bright color options, personalization, and current attitude, make these gifts a perfect bridesmaid gift!"bridesmaid" Wedding Transfer
  3. Just For a Bridesmaid: What we mean by this type of gift is that it is a gift set aside specifically for a bridesmaid, so much so that it will most likely say bridesmaid somewhere on it. Some fun ideas for this gift include, t-shirts, sweats, jackets, make-up cases, and the bridesmaid survival kit! These type of gifts are a great way to celebrate the wedding day and their role in it. 
 
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Wedding Thank You Note Etiquette

Wedding Thank You Notes Etiquette

Thank you notes are perceived as being one of the last stops of the wedding train. In a way, they are, but in order for you not to drown in envelopes, hand cramps, envelope moisteners, and gift lists, some thank you cards can be done along the way. For example, your bridal shower thank you notes should be sent out within a week, with a special note or gift to whoever hosted. Also, when you get gifts that come in the mail, you should go ahead and write your thank you note right after you open the wrapping. So what happens when you wait till after the honeymoon to send out your thank yous? Well...then you got to get a move on!

What time frame to write your thank you notes?

Some people say that newlyweds have a year after their wedding to send out all their thank you notes, and while you can consider that year mark as that absolute deadline, it is best to get them out within the first four months after your wedding. Like I noted above, thank you's for bridal shower gifts, those who hosted celebrations, or otherwise assisted with your wedding, should be sent out within two weeks.

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What do you say in a thank you note?

Even if the gift or service is coming from someone that you may not be one hundred percent chummy with, the number one concern with a thank you note is to be genuine. This means using a stationary that is not pre-written or fill in the blank. Furthermore, in your personalized note, don't exaggerate or overly gush about how their gift is your favorite, especially if its not. Then, on the other hand, don't inform them that you are returning their gift because they were the fourth person to give you a crock-pot. Simply give your appreciation for the thought and time in which they have supported your new adventure. For guests that gift you with money or gift cards, if you know how you are going to use the money, feel free to tell them. 

 

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