An Alternative to Bare Feet: Comfy Bridal Shoes

Though they used to be a stark white afterthought, bridal shoes are taking center stage as an essential part of the perfect bridal outfit. They should stand out when you want them to, but take a back seat when all eyes are on the altar. Here are a few quick tips for selecting the right pair of fun bridal shoes for you, and a couple of suggestions for when you start your long hunt for the perfect kicks:
Stick to your Comfort Zone
If you never wear platforms or crazy high heels, now is not the time to try them out. If you’re most comfortable in sandals and flats, don’t let your bridal fantasies trick you into buying a pair of shoes you would have never looked twice at otherwise. No amount of practice between purchase and the big day will be enough for you to strut with the confidence you need to not take a tumble half way through the day. If you’re focusing on not falling to an untimely demise in a pair of six-inch monsters, you won’t have a chance to enjoy your own wedding. Plus, broken metatarsals make for crummy honeymoons.
Don’t Get Cheap
We all know what it’s like to bend to cheap shoes at discounters only to have your feet protesting in agony after a day at the office. Imagine that, but ten times worse. If you’ve ever had an excuse to splurge on pretty shoes, this is it. You’re going to be standing in them all day, and the last thing you want to be worried about is a pair of screaming feet. Buy smart, break them in well before the big day, and don’t let the photographer catch you slinging them off before the first dance.
Keep the Wild Ones Under Wraps
The crazier and more colorful the shoe, the more control you’re going to want to have over when they make an appearance, especially if you’re having a more formal ceremony in a church or other solemn site. Long dresses are better suited to wild shoes, as they won’t be the center of attention the entire evening. Stick out your feet to show them off at the reception and for the photographer, but you may want to keep under wraps when you’re taking your vows – that’s when you want all eyes on you, not your feet.
I've often found myself locked in some shaky department store dressing room when I hear something like the following conversation taking place right outside my door:
"Do you think this will work for the wedding on Saturday?"
"I have no idea, but it seems like it might be a bit casual."
"I'm just worried about the little white hearts on the edging. I don't know if it's too much white for a wedding."
It's a conversation that many of us have as we stare hopelessly into the full-length mirror in the days leading up to someone else's impending nuptials, especially if we don't go to weddings often. Most guests stress more than they have to, but here's a quick guide if you're still not sure about your outfit for someone's big day:
1. Wearing "White"
If you're wearing a dress, but you're not sure if the color counts as white, you might want to find something else. It doesn't matter if the tag says "off-white" or "bone" or "antique," you're still going to look like you wore a white dress to a wedding, and that's been a no-no since white became "it" in wedding wear. It's probably the only wedding fashion rule every other guest is sure to know about - so why risk looking like you missed the memo and you're trying to upstage the bride?
If you're wearing white pants with a navy top, or white pumps, or a white clutch, or a patterned dress with white flowers on it, you're totally fine. No one is expecting you do ignore the shade entirely, and no one is going to side-eye your fashion choices if you're wearing nice white pants with a yellow blouse and navy pumps.
2. The Invitation
For guests who are biting their nails about the formality of the wedding and the accompanying dress code, your first clue is the invitation (or Save-the-Date, if your hosts chose to use them). While most brides won't come right out and say how you should dress right on the invite, the formality of the paper goods sent to your house are an adequate marker for how formal the event will be. Also, snoop around on their wedding website and find a few links to the ceremony and reception spaces. If the wedding is in a swanky hotel at 8pm on a Saturday, you'll probably dress a little differently than a Tuesday afternoon backyard BBQ.
3. It Never Hurts to Ask
There's probably no reason to bother the couple themselves about your selected wedding outfit (the bride is probably a little busy with her own), but if you're close with a family member or member of the bridal party, think about shooting them an email with a picture of your dress or outfit. This is a good way to find out if your outfit is shooting up any red flags that you may have missed, like you've accidentally selected something very similar to a bridesmaid dress, or plan on wearing shoes that will not be conducive to the wedding environment. Hopefully they'll include any hazardous terrain warnings on their wedding website, but it never hurts to check!
Good Luck!