Tips for Stress-Free Wedding Planning
While there’s really no such thing as “stress-free wedding planning,” there are some opportunities that you will find to make your wedding planning a little easier for everyone involved. While each family has its own frustrating quirks, and everyone is likely to have an opinion the second an engagement ring slides onto your finger, here are a few ways to keep things light, fun, and as close to stress-free as wedding planning could possibly be:
Even when planning the smallest possible wedding, you will have to compromise with someone, even if they aren’t contributing a dime to your wedding. That’s just how being a part of a family works. There are some topics that are off the table for discussion (which denomination your ceremony will be composed regarding, for example), but there are some smaller things you might have to let go of. A good test for which details are a part of the “let it go” category is the “10 years” question. Will you remember which cake flavor you went with in 10 years? What boutonnière style your mother wore? Probably not. If something really is important to you, stand your ground, but think about the potential hurt feelings you create when doing so. If your aunt won’t bend on a provocative dress she wants to wear to the ceremony, is it really worth the energy to fight her about it? Chances are good you won’t even notice her during the big day. Weigh which issues mean the most to you, and which you’re willing to compromise on. Know which hills to die on, so to speak, and you’ll spare everyone unnecessary hard feelings. Accept Help and Try not to Ignore Reality
Planning a wedding can sometimes get you swept up in zombie “get-it-done” mode. You know that you’ll be able to do get it done in the way it needs to be done (whatever it is), so it’s sometimes hard to shift that responsibility or task to someone else who wants to help. If your future sister in law wants to help you deal with the photographer and prepare favors (even if you don’t care for the way she ties ribbons to programs), try to let her help. The more you spread the work around, the easier and more manageable all of these tasks and responsibilities become. Remember, trying to make everything perfect by doing it yourself will not only lead to stress on your part, but some unmet expectations on the big day. Your wedding will be awesome because you’re getting married, not because all of your cocktail napkins are embossed in the same direction. When help is offered, accept graciously, and don’t heap unrealistic expectations on those who offered their hand. Include Your Future Spouse
The wedding industry is very bride-centered, so it can sometimes be hard to remember that you are, well, including a second person in this whole affair. That person often has opinions, even if they don’t voice them as often or as vivaciously as you do. Try to really talk and listen about your future spouse’s wedding expectations to make sure you’re both on the same page. If your fiancé hates large crowds and loud music, maybe your wedding shouldn’t be packing 300 people into an after-hours club. You might have had the “perfect” wedding dreamed up from the moment you could say “I do,” but that was before you met the person you’re marrying now. Your wedding should be equal parts of the both of you, and it’s worth it to adjust your expectations accordingly. Take a Step Back
Organization was going to be the last point on my genius list (because let’s face it, a wedding binder with color-coded tabs never hurt anyone), but it isn’t nearly as important as a big cup of perspective as your wedding day draws nearer. The end result of a wedding isn’t a cake or a reception or honeymoon, it’s a marriage. No matter what happens in the weeks and months leading up to your wedding, you will be married when it’s all over. Isn’t that awesome? You get to be legally linked and bound to someone who loves you unconditionally. You get to send holiday cards as a social unit. That is so much cooler than a ceremony harpist.
So whenever wedding stresses seem to get overwhelming, and the DJ won’t call you back after four weeks of frantic emails, grab a beer and watch some crappy reality TV with your future spouse. When all of the relatives have gone home and you’ve returned every duplicate stand mixer, you get to be married to someone who loves you. Keep it all in perspective before you break someone’s fingers for ordering hydrangeas instead of peonies.
Pick Your Battles
Even when planning the smallest possible wedding, you will have to compromise with someone, even if they aren’t contributing a dime to your wedding. That’s just how being a part of a family works. There are some topics that are off the table for discussion (which denomination your ceremony will be composed regarding, for example), but there are some smaller things you might have to let go of. A good test for which details are a part of the “let it go” category is the “10 years” question. Will you remember which cake flavor you went with in 10 years? What boutonnière style your mother wore? Probably not. If something really is important to you, stand your ground, but think about the potential hurt feelings you create when doing so. If your aunt won’t bend on a provocative dress she wants to wear to the ceremony, is it really worth the energy to fight her about it? Chances are good you won’t even notice her during the big day. Weigh which issues mean the most to you, and which you’re willing to compromise on. Know which hills to die on, so to speak, and you’ll spare everyone unnecessary hard feelings. Accept Help and Try not to Ignore Reality
Planning a wedding can sometimes get you swept up in zombie “get-it-done” mode. You know that you’ll be able to do get it done in the way it needs to be done (whatever it is), so it’s sometimes hard to shift that responsibility or task to someone else who wants to help. If your future sister in law wants to help you deal with the photographer and prepare favors (even if you don’t care for the way she ties ribbons to programs), try to let her help. The more you spread the work around, the easier and more manageable all of these tasks and responsibilities become. Remember, trying to make everything perfect by doing it yourself will not only lead to stress on your part, but some unmet expectations on the big day. Your wedding will be awesome because you’re getting married, not because all of your cocktail napkins are embossed in the same direction. When help is offered, accept graciously, and don’t heap unrealistic expectations on those who offered their hand. Include Your Future Spouse
The wedding industry is very bride-centered, so it can sometimes be hard to remember that you are, well, including a second person in this whole affair. That person often has opinions, even if they don’t voice them as often or as vivaciously as you do. Try to really talk and listen about your future spouse’s wedding expectations to make sure you’re both on the same page. If your fiancé hates large crowds and loud music, maybe your wedding shouldn’t be packing 300 people into an after-hours club. You might have had the “perfect” wedding dreamed up from the moment you could say “I do,” but that was before you met the person you’re marrying now. Your wedding should be equal parts of the both of you, and it’s worth it to adjust your expectations accordingly. Take a Step Back
Organization was going to be the last point on my genius list (because let’s face it, a wedding binder with color-coded tabs never hurt anyone), but it isn’t nearly as important as a big cup of perspective as your wedding day draws nearer. The end result of a wedding isn’t a cake or a reception or honeymoon, it’s a marriage. No matter what happens in the weeks and months leading up to your wedding, you will be married when it’s all over. Isn’t that awesome? You get to be legally linked and bound to someone who loves you unconditionally. You get to send holiday cards as a social unit. That is so much cooler than a ceremony harpist.
So whenever wedding stresses seem to get overwhelming, and the DJ won’t call you back after four weeks of frantic emails, grab a beer and watch some crappy reality TV with your future spouse. When all of the relatives have gone home and you’ve returned every duplicate stand mixer, you get to be married to someone who loves you. Keep it all in perspective before you break someone’s fingers for ordering hydrangeas instead of peonies.
Ideas for Wedding Shadowboxes
Supplement Frames with Wedding Shadowboxes
Wedding Shadowboxes
So your wedding day is through and now you’re compiling memories for every album, scrapbook, and frame that you’ve collected since your engagement. But now you’re noticing that there are many memories that can’t be flattened between the pages of something two-dimensional: your bouquet, favors, confetti, handkerchiefs… – the list goes on. You should start collecting wedding shadowboxes to display these beautiful and invaluable items. Wedding shadowboxes are beautiful contributions to your home, and in addition to showcasing memorable three-dimensional items from your wedding, wedding shadowboxes make storing these items for posterity much easier. It’s the things your future progeny can see and feel that will connect them to your wedding day; wedding shadowboxes keep the items you love most from being lost in moves and garage sales. Wedding shadowboxes also make wonderful gifts, especially post-wedding. Think about saving some of the little things from the wedding you attend of a loved one (escort cards, favor labels, rose petals, etc), and put together wedding shadowboxes as future anniversary gifts. The wedding shadowboxes you present to your loved ones will be a welcome surprise and will definitely find a place of honor in their home for years to come. Pair photos of beautiful memories with the items involved with wedding shadowboxes.Finding and Making DIY Wedding Cake Toppers
Using DIY Wedding Cake Toppers
DIY Wedding Cake Toppers
A DIY bride knows that any detail of you wedding is made even more special when you make it yourself. DIY wedding cake toppers are just the same, but you might want to skip trying to mold figures of you and your one-and-only out of clay. If you really want to make DIY wedding cake toppers all they can be, try to add something to an existing cake topper; add something that will take a regular cake topper and make it just for you. There are many ways you can take generic toppers and make them DIY wedding cake toppers; you are limited only by your imagination. Many brides choose to combine figurines and toppers to make them DIY wedding cake toppers, such as adding figures of your beloved pets or preferred mode of transportation to the top of your fluffy pastry. While you haven't technically made these DIY wedding cake toppers yourself, the combination ends up as something uniquely yours. This also works for mix-and-match cake toppers. Finally, if you are truly crafty, make something uniquely yours as an accompaniment to your DIY wedding cake toppers. Build a bridge or ladder to connect two tiers of cake; use fondant to mold a seat for your figurines; go crazy! DIY wedding cake toppers are DIY for one reason: they came from you and your beautiful brain.A Vegas Cake Topper - The Perfect Elopement Keepsake
Keeping your Vegas Cake Topper in One Piece
Vegas Cake Topper
When you head out to Las Vegas to get married, you often don't bring much with you. Spur-of-the-moment Vegas brides rarely have the time for pre-wedding parties, fancy wedding favors, or even a bouquet. But if you're thinking about eloping with your one-and-only for an unforgettable (yet not so hard to find) wedding destination in Sin City, you might want to think about bringing a Vegas cake topper with you. Weddings, no matter the destination, are creators of keepsakes. Even if you don't want the hassle of a traditional pomp-and-circumstance affair, a Vegas cake topper can be your one little reminder of a marriage that will last a lifetime. A Vegas cake topper won't take up much room, will look great in photos, and will act as your piece of personalization to any Vegas wedding package. When packing your Vegas cake topper, be careful to treat it with more care than your dancing shoes. It would be a shame to have your figurine's head break off on the long drive to glittery matrimony. Keep your Vegas cake topper safe by packing it in your carry-on luggage or in a bag that you know you'll be keeping with you. Don't let your Vegas cake topper - your only keepsake - bite the dust before you say "I do!"Handling Common Bridesmaid Issues
Hopefully you picked your bridesmaids because they are close to you and you want to share your big day with them, and they with you. There are sometimes familial political rulings that occur without your consent, but there's nothing you can do now but make the best of it. Here are a few pointers when you're faced with a few common bridesmaid headaches in the months before you say "I do":
She asks to be a bridesmaid
This happens at most weddings, but you really don't have to cave to anyone, no matter what. Like building a guest list, you should be surrounding yourself with the bridesmaids that you choose, not the ones chosen for you. If someone tries to force a new bridal party member on you, be kind but firm.
"I'm sorry, but we've already chosen our bridesmaids, but I can't wait to see you and your husband at the wedding!"
Don't try to lessen the sting of rejection by offering her a side job. No one wants to set up place cards or man the dessert table as some kind of a consolation prize - that's more like work. She drops out of the wedding If your maid drops out of the wedding unexpectedly, you should be more concerned as to why than the uneven sides in wedding photos. Is it a money issue? Does your maid know that she doesn't have to throw you parties and showers? The most a bridesmaid is required to do is buy the dress and show up on the wedding day. If the dress is an issue, would you be willing to pick up the tab? Let them wear dresses they already own? If your bridesmaid really isn't sure that she can stand up for you without a major inconvenience on her part, be gracious and tell her that you hope she can still make it as a guest. No big deal.
Don't replace her. Not only will that potentially ruin your friendship, it will hurt the bridesmaid you use to take her place. She'll feel B-listed, no matter what she says. She's good enough to stand in pictures to even out sides but not to be a chosen the first time around? Nuh-uh. She gets a tattoo So your bridesmaid has a forearm-sized tall ship on her back and you have backless bridesmaid gowns. What should you do? Nothing. There is no way to approach this issue without hurting your maid's feelings. She has made a permanent change to her body, and by making an issue of it, you are telling her that her new appearance is ugly and you don't want it in your pictures. Your maids can't put their lives on standby during the time leading up to your big day, so no matter what happens to her before the big day (including belly-swelling pregnancies!), she's as is, baby.
Don't tell her to cover up, even if she got the ink after she accepted the position. Your bridesmaids aren't just props in pictures, they're your friends. Smile as her new purple butterfly chest piece clashes with her orange dress; her permanent fashion choice doesn't reflect in any way on you.
Don't try to lessen the sting of rejection by offering her a side job. No one wants to set up place cards or man the dessert table as some kind of a consolation prize - that's more like work. She drops out of the wedding If your maid drops out of the wedding unexpectedly, you should be more concerned as to why than the uneven sides in wedding photos. Is it a money issue? Does your maid know that she doesn't have to throw you parties and showers? The most a bridesmaid is required to do is buy the dress and show up on the wedding day. If the dress is an issue, would you be willing to pick up the tab? Let them wear dresses they already own? If your bridesmaid really isn't sure that she can stand up for you without a major inconvenience on her part, be gracious and tell her that you hope she can still make it as a guest. No big deal.
Don't replace her. Not only will that potentially ruin your friendship, it will hurt the bridesmaid you use to take her place. She'll feel B-listed, no matter what she says. She's good enough to stand in pictures to even out sides but not to be a chosen the first time around? Nuh-uh. She gets a tattoo So your bridesmaid has a forearm-sized tall ship on her back and you have backless bridesmaid gowns. What should you do? Nothing. There is no way to approach this issue without hurting your maid's feelings. She has made a permanent change to her body, and by making an issue of it, you are telling her that her new appearance is ugly and you don't want it in your pictures. Your maids can't put their lives on standby during the time leading up to your big day, so no matter what happens to her before the big day (including belly-swelling pregnancies!), she's as is, baby.
Don't tell her to cover up, even if she got the ink after she accepted the position. Your bridesmaids aren't just props in pictures, they're your friends. Smile as her new purple butterfly chest piece clashes with her orange dress; her permanent fashion choice doesn't reflect in any way on you.
The Many Reasons to Spring for a Wedding Organizer
A Wedding Organizer to Keep Everything in Check
Wedding Organizer
Any wedding professional will tell you that they key to avoiding wedding planning stress is to keep everything organized. If you're an old fashioned kind of bride (or groom!) who has trouble keeping everything straight without writing it down, a good wedding organizer should help you greatly. A wedding organizer will do much more than offer you inspiration and advice as you trudge through wedding planning; it will be your stylized guide to keeping everything in check as the quotes and contracts come rolling in. If you're looking for a good engagement gift for the potentially frantic bride, a wedding organizer couldn't hurt. While others might be gathering wedding magazines and website recommendations for the overburdened bride, you can help her keep everything in check with a solid wedding organizer! A good wedding organizer will have tabs, budgeting tools, and a large, infallible calendar. You can play with your iPhone all you want - nothing is a substitute for writing dates and deadlines down. The act of writing things and taking notes in your wedding organizer will commit them to memory better than simply jotting them down in your digital universe. Plus, your wedding organizer will never run out of batteries.A Different Kind of Bachelorette Party
The bachelorette party is a wedding staple that most brides couldn't imagine going without. It's a chance for a small, fun outing with the girls before the big day that usually consists of alcohol, maybe a few strippers, and matching purple wigs. For the bridal entourage who isn't so inclined, however, planning a bachelorette gets a little more difficult. So what's a stumped hostess to do? Here are a few bachelorette party ideas that are sure to please any crowd, regardless of age or ideology:
Do a Dance Class
Make a day of a bachelorette party by booking a fun, quirky dance class for the bride and her bridal entourage. Classes like "Zumba," and Beginners Pole Dancing offer some good fun for guests on any budget. Take the moves you learn and hit a club to try them out on the town, or call it a night and head home to recover with some bad wedding movies and margaritas. If you do a morning class, treat guests to a brunch afterward to refuel everyone!
Do Something Juvenile
Though they might be places you haven't visited since your younger years, the draw of an arcade, theme park, or "family fun" center can't be ignored. Imagine terrorizing the grounds of a Put-Put after dark, enjoying some high-energy laser tag, go-karts, mini golf, and even the batting cages (maybe loosen the corset first). Laser tag arenas and go-kart centers are also heaps of fun on their own, and you're almost guaranteed to find at least one claw machine to huddle around. Dress up like you would for any other bachelorette night (maybe minus the suggestive straws - there are kids around, after all), and tear through water parks, mini golf courses, and any other local delight you have at your disposal. The night is yours, and you don't even have to leave underage guests at home! Do Something Dangerous
If the ladies you'll be hosting have an adventurous side, think about booking a rafting trip or afternoon at the local rock wall. Take paintballing trips back from bachelor parties and schedule a battle for the day for you and the girls (just make sure you do it far enough before the wedding that bruises can be edited easily out of official photos). Don't underestimate the ladies on your guest list, but make sure everyone is ready for something a little out of the ordinary before you commit to kayaking (and make sure to provide waterproof neon wigs).
Make a day of a bachelorette party by booking a fun, quirky dance class for the bride and her bridal entourage. Classes like "Zumba," and Beginners Pole Dancing offer some good fun for guests on any budget. Take the moves you learn and hit a club to try them out on the town, or call it a night and head home to recover with some bad wedding movies and margaritas. If you do a morning class, treat guests to a brunch afterward to refuel everyone!
Do Something Juvenile
Though they might be places you haven't visited since your younger years, the draw of an arcade, theme park, or "family fun" center can't be ignored. Imagine terrorizing the grounds of a Put-Put after dark, enjoying some high-energy laser tag, go-karts, mini golf, and even the batting cages (maybe loosen the corset first). Laser tag arenas and go-kart centers are also heaps of fun on their own, and you're almost guaranteed to find at least one claw machine to huddle around. Dress up like you would for any other bachelorette night (maybe minus the suggestive straws - there are kids around, after all), and tear through water parks, mini golf courses, and any other local delight you have at your disposal. The night is yours, and you don't even have to leave underage guests at home! Do Something Dangerous
If the ladies you'll be hosting have an adventurous side, think about booking a rafting trip or afternoon at the local rock wall. Take paintballing trips back from bachelor parties and schedule a battle for the day for you and the girls (just make sure you do it far enough before the wedding that bruises can be edited easily out of official photos). Don't underestimate the ladies on your guest list, but make sure everyone is ready for something a little out of the ordinary before you commit to kayaking (and make sure to provide waterproof neon wigs).
Pairing Desserts with Summer Wedding Cake Toppers
Finding the Right Summer Wedding Cake Toppers
Summer Wedding Cake Toppers
Summer is here and it's in full swing! It's no wonder that this season is the most popular for weddings; it's warm, beautiful, and everyone is prepared to cash in vacation time. What you need to crown your perfect summer wedding are a few summer wedding cake toppers. Summer wedding cake toppers differ from your traditional cake toppers in a few ways. You might find some summer wedding cake toppers that feature the happy couple in some warm weather-friendly wear (if your wedding is outside, I can only hope you're not putting your groom in a stuffy suit). You may decide that tropical summer wedding cake toppers are more your style (picture starfish, seashells, and everything in between). Or you might find that the summer wedding cake toppers that really fit the bill are ones that follow a light, fun summer wedding color scheme. You can't go wrong with your selection of summer wedding cake toppers, and don't feel like you have to conform to traditional wedding cake for your warm weather event either. Many couple like to pair their summer wedding cake toppers with lighter refreshments for their guests. Have your summer wedding cake toppers crown a table filled with light pastries: think canoles, sweet bread, or even ice cream! No one will say no to an orange dreamsicle or fudge pop on a hot summer day, especially if they don't have to miss out on some beautiful summer wedding cake toppers!Hawaiian Cake Toppers: Wedding and Honeymoon!
You’ll Love Your Hawaiian Cake Toppers
Hawaiian Cake Toppers
The go-to destination for far-away, exotic weddings has always been and will always be Hawaii. Hawaii exudes beauty – what a perfect place for a wedding! It’s an extra plus if you’re an American couple looking for an exotic wedding locale; you don’t need passports! So if you’re packing your bags for a faraway getaway to the beautiful islands of Hawaii (or just looking for the look and feel of the islands at your wedding), be sure to find just the right Hawaiian cake toppers! Hawaiian cake toppers are exactly what you would expect from your typical beach toppers: ocean themes, seashells, palm trees – but they’re also so much more. If you’re looking for exclusively HAWAIIAN cake toppers, look for couple donning island drums, traditional hula fare, and leis. Hawaiian cake toppers will be great keepsakes to display on your mantle for years to come, and they’ll always remind you of the fun you had on your wedding day. The same is true if you’re looking for Hawaiian cake toppers as a nod to your honeymoon destination. You don’t need Hawaiian cake toppers just for Hawaiian weddings – they can be a clue to your impending vacation during your reception! Hawaiian cake toppers are a great way to tell your guests what you and your new spouse will be up to after you make your grand exit!Bridal Party Gifts: Where, When, and Why!
They’ll Love Bridal Party Gifts
Bridal Party Gifts
Your bridal party – from your flower girls to your groomsmen – will be the backbone of your wedding day. Hopefully you’ve chosen your bridal party carefully, and you’re extremely happy to have them stand up for you as you marry your future bride/groom. So how should you thank them for their dedication, love, and (sometimes) hard work? Present them with bridal party gifts before the big day! Bridal party gifts are little ways to show your bridal party just how much you appreciate them – from a coloring book set for your ring bearer to an engraved flask for the best man, bridal party gifts should be personal, useful, and simple. The best place to present bridal party gifts will be the rehearsal dinner: the get-together after the wedding rehearsal that doesn’t have to be too fancy (a backyard barbeque is more than enough). As you present your bridal party gifts, think about saying a few words of personal thanks to each of your guests. This isn’t a bad time to thank your parents either, as they’ll be attending your rehearsal dinner as well! Chose your bridal party gifts as carefully as you chose your bridal party; you won’t regret it!Why Keep your Wedding Linens?
Why You Should Purchase and Store your Wedding Linens
Wedding Linens
If you’re hosting your wedding at a location without available wedding linens, you have a couple of options: either rent them for the evening or buy them outright. Not many brides opt for purchasing their own wedding linens, but if your party is small enough, they can actually save you money in the long run, especially if you entertain a lot. Wedding linens are a special and important part of your wedding décor, why not keep them? Pass them along to your future children? Here are a few reasons why you should opt to purchase wedding linens, even if you’re only getting napkins, placemats, or table runners: For EntertainingIf you entertain a lot, or even if you plan on entertaining ever again, saving your wedding linens will be worth it. Bust out those wedding linens at Thanksgiving, Christmas, or any other meal opportunity at your disposal. Bonus points if your wedding linens come with a monogram; it adds a hint of “Man, she really knows what she’s doing” to any holiday party. For Posterity
More than wedding photos, actual wedding artifacts (such as your wedding linens, your preserved bouquet) are going to become family treasures down the line. Give your progeny pieces of your wedding day to carry with them to pass to their own children. Your wedding linens will mean more then than you know. For Sentimental Value
Just like with the sentimental hand-me-downs, the emotional value of keeping your wedding linens is indispensable. You won’t regret keeping them, as your wedding linens will speak to the emotion and magic of your wedding day every time you open the linen cupboard.