Why Keep your Wedding Linens?
Why You Should Purchase and Store your Wedding Linens
Wedding Linens
If you’re hosting your wedding at a location without available wedding linens, you have a couple of options: either rent them for the evening or buy them outright. Not many brides opt for purchasing their own wedding linens, but if your party is small enough, they can actually save you money in the long run, especially if you entertain a lot. Wedding linens are a special and important part of your wedding décor, why not keep them? Pass them along to your future children? Here are a few reasons why you should opt to purchase wedding linens, even if you’re only getting napkins, placemats, or table runners: For EntertainingIf you entertain a lot, or even if you plan on entertaining ever again, saving your wedding linens will be worth it. Bust out those wedding linens at Thanksgiving, Christmas, or any other meal opportunity at your disposal. Bonus points if your wedding linens come with a monogram; it adds a hint of “Man, she really knows what she’s doing” to any holiday party. For Posterity
More than wedding photos, actual wedding artifacts (such as your wedding linens, your preserved bouquet) are going to become family treasures down the line. Give your progeny pieces of your wedding day to carry with them to pass to their own children. Your wedding linens will mean more then than you know. For Sentimental Value
Just like with the sentimental hand-me-downs, the emotional value of keeping your wedding linens is indispensable. You won’t regret keeping them, as your wedding linens will speak to the emotion and magic of your wedding day every time you open the linen cupboard.
Wedding “Essentials” that You Can Skip
Unless you’re invested in the idea of a church, far too many brides think that they need a space for their ceremony and a separate space for their reception. Bundling will save you a lot of green. I recommend finding a restaurant to host your nuptials – many spaces will cover décor and food, which will save you the hassle of finding a caterer and a rental company. If you’re pretty laid back, you may not even need to bring anything in as far as décor is concerned. Let them worry about it. Bushels of Fresh Flowers
Finding a venue that is naturally beautiful and full of shrubberies and wildflowers will save you a bundle on decorative, professional flowers. Flowers can eat up a huge amount of wedding cash, and they die – quickly. If I’m going to drop more than a thousand dollars on a detail of my wedding, I want it around for a while. If you love flowers and simply can’t live without them, ignore me. If you’re a bride who didn’t even know you could have a wedding without them, great alternatives are fabric or paper flowers. They’re fun crafts that you can make yourself and keep forever.
An Evening Itinerary
Breakfast, Lunch, and Brunch are undervalued wedding meals, and it’s about time we embrace them more in the wedding world. The advantages of a morning or early afternoon wedding far outnumber those events that take place in the evening: People tend to consume less alcohol earlier in the day, venues will have more availability (even on high-demand days), and I have it on the best authority that you have less time to have a bridal meltdown if your nuptials are before lunch.
An Expensive Officiant
While you can’t have a wedding without someone to perform the ceremony, there’s no reason to pay someone an arm and a leg for their services, unless you’re having a religious service. Find a friend or family member who’s willing, and $5 and ten minutes on the internet later you have an ordained clergy person. The advantage of having a close friend or family member officiate is their familiarity with your relationship; it’s always nice to have someone who knows you bonding you together for life.
Short Programs
Programs are helpful for long weddings that deal in services that some guests might not be familiar with, but if you’re having a simple summer wedding with a short, quick ceremony, programs can be kind of a waste. It’s a lot of paper that guests will simply throw away if you don’t think it’s entirely necessary. As for the names of the wedding party, just have them announced at your reception. No one will become belligerent because they didn’t catch the name of your maid of honor.
Spreadsheets for a Perfect Wedding Budget
Microsoft Excel is designed to be easy to use and helpful, and is especially wonderful during the wedding planning process - take advantage of it! If you aren't comfortable using Excel (or an equivalent program), try to get help from your new fiancé/fiancée or a particularly friendly coworker. I first learned how to navigate the wonderful world of spreadsheets by looking around on Google and YouTube for quick "basics" tutorials, as you won't need anything past a basic understanding to create a good wedding spreadsheet - it's an amazing tool, as it practically does all of your budgeting for you.
Columns! So Exciting!
Columns can be organized by different budget scenarios, with the running total on top (for ease of access), starting with your ideal budget and working toward budgets that are more specific. I recommend one column for an ideal budget, a column for projected budget (how much you think you'll actually spend. Depending on different variables, you can have multiples of these), a column for various quoted prices, and an actual money spent column. These columns will help you to keep your budget in perspective as you move forward, and it works well for testing out different combinations and package options to see how they would affect your overall budget. Sometimes it's hard to visualize all budget outcomes without a tangible guide, and Excel is a great solution.
Rows! Hooray!
Your rows can be as general or specific as you like, but keep in mind that you can always add subheadings for specific items that are a part of a larger group. You can have a row for "party rentals" and a row for "tables," or you can group them together as a single expense. These groupings will change depending on how inclusive venues and packages are and you can always group them in later columns.
The reason that Excel is such a great wedding planning tool is that no expense with take you by surprise at the last minute as you add up your expenses and discuss priorities with your future spouse. Excel can be a singular tool that keeps track of your expenses and helps you decide where you want to spend your money on your wedding day! Color code away!
Finding the Right Casual Wedding Invitations
Casual Wedding Invitations for your Laid-Back Nuptials
Casual Wedding Invitations
Your wedding invitations are the one bit of wedding stationary that almost no one skips, specifically because of how important they are. Casual wedding invitations will help your guests understand what the vibe of your wedding is – how they should dress, what they should expect, etc. If you’re planning on a big to-do black tie affair, it’s safe to bet that you don’t want to stock up on casual wedding invitations. Casual wedding invitations are for casual weddings; weddings where your guests don’t wear ties or sip expensive cocktails. Casual wedding invitations still conform to all the protocols of standard invitations, however. Be sure to give your guests plenty of notice (6-ish weeks) and make sure they have a card to return an RSVP. The difference with casual wedding invitations, however, is that you probably won’t have delicate inlayed spacer paper and a thousand tiny envelopes within the casing of your casual wedding invitations. Casual wedding invitations should also be paired with equally casual Save-the-Dates, if you can. They, along with casual wedding invitations, will help your guests navigate the formality of your event and plan accordingly.Finding Wonderful Inexpensive Wedding Dresses
Sometimes a dirty word in the high-end wedding industry, David's Bridal gets more grief than it deserves. Their customer service is super helpful and accommodating, and their selection is fabulous if you know what you're looking for. The problem is that there are a lot of styles and options to look through. Many people picture an uninteresting, , empire-waisted white potato sack with a burgundy ribbon when they think of the selection at David's, , but the breadth of selection makes it much easier to find something that fits your tastes. On their website, I found a number of fabulous gowns under $300. Utilizing the Services of Department Stores
Both Nordstrom and Macy's have wedding dresses for much lower prices than I expected. You do have options outside of the traditional bridal salon, and while you may not get the same loyal salesperson at your heels while browsing racks at Nordy's, department stores are worth checking out if you're interested in a pretty but inexpensive dress for your wedding day. Also, consider searching the racks away from the "bridal" section to find simple white dresses that aren't marked specifically for weddings. No guest will tackle you at the altar for wearing something that wasn't filed under "bridal" on the department store website.
Specialized Private Dress Makers
It sounds like it would be a more expensive option, but it really depends on where you go for your custom wedding dress. Most seamstresses will make you a white dress for next to nothing, but like with everything else in life, the price goes up the fancier you get. If you have a fabric you're set on, take it in and see what the professionals quote you - the same goes for a cut or design. Sites like "Dolly Couture" offer wonderful custom dresses that start at very reasonable rates, and private sellers like Dolly make it much easier to find a dress that suits your particular style. It takes a bit of hunting (online and in the field), but it doesn't have to be impossible to find a wonderfully fabulous dress for way less than most bridal salons would have you believe!
Dog Wedding Outfits for Every Occasion
Fun and Stylish Dog Wedding Outfits
Dog Wedding Outfits
Your pooch is a big part of your life - why leave him or her out of your wedding day festivities? Including your dog in the wedding ceremony is becoming more and more popular (and subsequently less taboo), so be sure to prepare fluffy for her moment in the spotlight with a few adorable dog wedding outfits. While tuxedos and bows are what leaps to mind when you consider dog wedding outfits, don't think that you're limited when it comes to your puppy's duds. Browse dog wedding outfits that fit the look and feel of your wedding. Just like dressing up your bridesmaids and future husband, dog wedding outfits are as diverse as they are fun! Dog wedding outfits that fit a springtime or summer wedding will differ than those in the winter and fall. You want to make sure your puppy is comfortable, so don't load him or her down with fabric if you'll be wed in July. Also, dog wedding outfits might be new to a dog who hasn't been fitted in fabric before. Dress your puppy in his or her dog wedding outfits a few times before the big day to be sure that they won't get ripped to shreds before the vows even start. Dog wedding outfits will make sure that everyone looks their best on your big day!The Versatility of Wedding Cupcakes
Wedding Cupcakes and Wedding Cupcake Accessories
Wedding Cupcakes
The new (and persistent) trend in wedding confection is wedding cupcakes, and it’s no big mystery as to why. Wedding cupcakes offers a cuter and easier option for the couple who aren’t interested in the hassle of a full-size cake, and they are just so darn adorable. The work as dessert, they work as favors, and wedding cupcakes can be styled to fit the look and feel of your wedding for a fraction of the price. Plus, with wedding cupcakes, you don’t have to skip all the fun accessories! Many brides opt for wedding cupcakes simply because they can be made at home (or by an experienced friend). If you chose to use a professional bakery for your wedding cupcakes, you can still save by making them unique to your wedding all on your own. Personalize wedding cupcakes with wrappers (not the birthday party wrappers of old, but posh, clean, stylish wrappers) and display cases such as miniature bell jars. With the right accessories, all wedding cupcakes fit in at every style of modern wedding. Stack your wedding cupcakes up in a tower or place them gingerly at every place setting – with the right accessories, there’s no way to go wrong with wedding cupcakes.Your Wedding and Facebook
(Figuratively, that is) The advancement of wedding details (and the initial engagement) could get any girl all flustered, but that doesn’t mean that you should leap to your computer desk and update the world the second it happens (you’ll probably want to tell your family first when you get engaged, yeah?). Your wedding details are important to you and a small group of close friends and family, and your social reach is probably quite a bit broader online. Complications will arise regarding people who aren’t invited, or worse, people who assume they’re invited, when you update your entire social sphere to the goings on of your wedding (especially for 6+ months). Plus, you want guests to be excited and surprised when they finally see the details of your wedding – don’t go spoiling the fun by posting all of your secrets early! Be Careful with Whom You Chat Again, releasing wedding details to anyone on Facebook might send the wrong impression. Unless you’re planning on inviting everyone on your friends list (unlikely, yeah?), try to keep the wedding talk to a minimum online. If someone does ask about wedding details, it’s important not to give them the wrong impression by gushing and sending them dozens of links to wedding dress designers and neighborhood bakeries. If they aren’t going to be invited to the big event, keep the details short and sweet, and address any miscommunications as soon as you can (privately!).
When Things go Wrong Every bride will eventually encounter a wall post from a second cousin or long-forgotten sorority sister who will ask about their “lost” or “guaranteed” invitation. It may be as innocuous as a “Hey! I better be invited, girl! ;)” or as serious as “I believe my invite may have gotten lost in the mail, please send a
replacement,” but both should be addressed with poise immediately. Don’t comment on their wall posting, but instead shoot them an email or give them a call. Make sure you explain that you weren’t able to invite everyone you wanted to, and set up a date for coffee after the honeymoon. Don’t let lingering comments lead to an unexpected guest at the event, or animosity within a family – yes, it’s rude to ask about an invitation online, but it’s not worth starting a public row over.
Additions to your Non-Traditional Day
Your wedding planning experience will vary depending on the budget and look and feel you’re going for on your big day. While most brides will choose something elegant, understated, and refined (probably something with soft lighting, a plated dinner, and white branches), there are always a handful of brides who will scoff at such a venture and opt instead for a bouncy house. This is for those brides. The “wedding experience” is not universal, and nowhere is it written in stone that you must conform to a certain set of standards for your event to count as a wedding. Do you want your guests to kick off their shoes and dance barefoot in the grass? Do you want orange dreamsicles instead of a fancy cake? Do you want the youngest members of your family to have as much fun as the oldest? Cool. Here are a couple of ideas for your awesome wedding:
A Bouncy House!
A bounce house is a colorful air-filled palace of joy and bruising. As long as all kids are properly supervised (and you make it clear that there will be no lifeguard on duty during the reception), there’s no reason why a bounce house couldn’t be a great addition to your reception. Obviously, this venture is best suited to outdoor weddings, but you’ll be amazed how fast your guests turn into 5-year-olds as soon as the thing is inflated. The pictures you’ll get due to the goings-on of the bounce house will be worth every penny you drop on the house (and, by the way, the pennies will be much fewer than other wedding staples, such as a photo booth).
Crayons!
For the brides who still ask for the kids menu due to the many coloring opportunities, this option might quicken your pulse. Forget fancy (and expensive) linens for butcher paper and small buckets of crayons at each table and watch your guests glue their noses to the table as they try to beat their neighbor at tick-tack-toe or doodle all through the night. Brides with more traditional weddings can pull this off too, though you might restrict it to the kids table or opt for fancier buckets.
If you’re going for a casual wedding where crayons and a bounce house won’t be out of place, just make sure you warn your guests on your invitation or save-the-date. You don’t have to spell it out for them, but the style of the stationary and accompanying casual pictorials can be helpful.
A Little Invitation Inspiration from Andres and Andrea
Envelope Plain white envelopes won’t get you shunned by your family and friends, but invitations can be a fun way to experiment with new colors and textures. Andres and Andrea chose to begin their invitations with a parcel-brown envelope that incorporated a simple, wrap-around blue address sticker with hand-written guest addresses. They also used a stamp that integrated their color theme!
Invite The vivid, swirling colors that Andres and Andrea used throughout their invitation were also found all over their wedding day. From menus to table numbers, the stationary at their wedding promoted a feeling of unity and cohesion. Remember that simple designs are always appreciated by sometimes-overwhelmed guests. Andres and Andrea included only information that was necessary, and used an additional insert for extra info.
RSVP Keeping with the colors and feel of the invite, the RSVP card was a simple, elegant design that would be easy for any guest to navigate. Note that they saved themselves some paper by making the RSVP card a postcard!
Website A yellow insert with Andrea and Andres’ wedding website information allowed guests to answer any extra questions online. This is usually the best way to alert your guests of registry details (other than word-of-mouth).
3 Dancing Alternatives for your Guests
These alternatives aren’t just for shy guests, mind you. They’re also wonderful for afternoon weddings, weddings with an abundance of children, or weddings where the bride and groom themselves might not be so excited about dancing the night away. Try… Lawn Games Perfect for a warm-weather backyard wedding (or really anywhere with space and grass), lawn games are exactly what they sound like. Break out the croquet set and the bocce balls; this plan is a wonderful setup for a wedding that has several younger guests. Lawn games are much less expensive then a photo booth (another popular extra-dancing activity), and guests will stay entertained longer. Try… Conversation Starter Cards These are more of a bonus than a way to replace dancing completely. Conversation starter cards are a great way to decorate a table and occupy guests who may be a little shy about shaking it. You can print these cards yourself and arrange them in sets in any manner you like (think ribbons in your colors around sets of fifteen at each place setting). These cards might have hypothetical questions (in the “Would you Rather…” fashion) to get a fun conversation going, and are very well received at events where not everyone is eager to get up and dance. Try… Wedding Reception Lounges Better for evening weddings, and a little more laid-back than lawn party games, lounges allow your guests to congregate in comfortable settings on the fringes of your event space. Lounges also let you play with furniture arrangements and possibly integrate a fire pit in a way you probably shouldn’t on the dinner table. Lounges give your guests a laid-back alternative to dancing while still feeling like they’re a part of your event.