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How to Get Started on Your Wedding Vows

Volcano Elopement Writing your wedding vows can be intimidating. That is in part that writing itself can be hard as you try to put into words ideas that often do not yet have a language. Then you add in trying to express the love you have for someone you want to spend the rest of your life with and you have yourself a true writers block, stage fright, how on earth do I do this nightmare! So let's see if we can help! Let's start with a little writing exercise just to get the ideas going. Don't think every word you put down is going to end up in your vows or that you can only write down what you want in your vows. The point is to unlock the box, not engrave the stone! So grab a pen and paper (or a computer if you prefer) and let's get started! **Note this can be especially fun done with a bottle of wine and your BFFs in tow!** Pharmacy Museum Elopement in New Orleans

Brainstorming a Memory for your Wedding Vows

Step One: Create a five column table and label each column after the five senses: See, Hear, Smell, Feel, Taste. Step Two: Close your eyes and think of a moment with your significant other. Ideas: The first time you met, your first kiss, first date, a time you were sick and they took care of you, a cool date, etc. Any special moment, simple or crazy, will do. Step Three: Set a timer for 60 seconds and thinking of your chosen memory, write down as many words or phrases of what you can SEE in that memory. Only 60 seconds! And NO COMPLETE sentences. Step Four: Repeat step three for each of the senses. This should help you capture the moment you love so dearly without over thinking it! And get you brainstorming what you love most about your relationship. No matter which direction you go with your wedding vows, brainstorming is the best place to start. Use the feelings and images you capture in this exercise to begin describing your love! And remember, assuming you didn't start this five minutes before you're walking down the aisle, you have plenty of time to write and rewrite your wedding vows!    
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Tips for Writing Wedding Vows

There are few experiences in a person’s life scarier than speaking publicly. For those who are lucky enough to be reciting unchanging religious vows at their ceremony, you may never know the pulse-quickening anxiety of unfolding a piece of college-ruled paper and pouring your heart out to your fiancé and your entire family. Writing your wedding vows doesn’t have to be a last-minute sprint of clichés and random applications of the phrases “partner” and “love.” If you really want to write your own vows, try to follow these tips to get you started: Tell a Story
Nothing is more adorable than a quick anecdote during a couple’s wedding vows. It says what you love about each other without leaving you stuck with the word “love” a thousand times. Everyone knows you’re in love; you don’t need to tell them over and over. Instead, show them with a story that represents your personalities and why you want to spend the rest of your lives together. Stories also help to avoid repetition. This story-centric way of writing is also helpful if you’re thinking about adding a list of promises to your vows. Be specific in your promises, and remember that humor is always welcome!   Short and Sweet
Short vows are sweet vows. Of course, if you’re having a Catholic ceremony or some other lengthy religious service, this obviously isn’t an option. Lucky for you, your vows are already written in stone. For the rest of us, simplicity and brevity can be very important. The longer you talk, the less emphatic your vows tend to be. Keep it short as you’re sharing your love with the world – you have the rest of your life to say what you couldn’t fit onto that index card.   Avoid Quoting
There’s nothing wrong with including a song lyric that has some special meaning to you and your sweetie, but compiling your vows of nothing but snippets from “The Vow” or “27 Dresses” makes those sentiments someone else’s, not yours. You want to express your feelings to the love of your life, not somebody else’s. No one is expecting you to turn into Shakespeare when you open your mouth at the altar, so don’t be so worried about your linguistic prowess. Just say what you feel in whatever words you have.   Remember, your vows are your own and there is no wrong way to write them. The best you can do is relax, open your heart, and keep it short!
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