How to Make it FUN
Consider Co-edA great way to inject a more playful vibe is to open up the guest list to both men and women. This is especially nice because it means the groom get's to participate. Plus, it creates opportunities for more game ideas that are bound to get some laughs. There's just something about having both genders in attendance that makes people more competitive come game time! Also, can you imagine the silliness that will ensue when you dad is the one being wrapped in his toilet paper wedding dress?
Think of YOUGreg Obierek Photography If you want to have a fun bridal shower, then make the bridal shower about things you like. If you want a super formal bridal shower, that's great. But if you want people laughing and a little activity running around, infusing your unique interests into the PARTY can make it AMAZING. For example, if you and your fiance are avid football fans, take your bridal shower outdoors and actually play football! Serve burgers and hot dogs, and just enjoy the sweaty fun. Or if you don't have an active group attending, just go all out with a fun theme that inspires everything from decor to games to food. You're a Harry Potter nerd? Why not serve butter beer and have a magical time?
Let it go!Connie Whitlock Photo Weddings and all the surrounding planning and sub events can be so so stressful. So this tip really goes for everything, but can be applied to making your bridal shower more fun. LET GO! You will plan and coordinate and budget, but on the day of any of these wedding events, the moment it starts all those logistics are no longer your problem. If your worried about running out of food ruining your good mood, put someone else in charge of worrying about it for you! Your maid of honor is perfect for this.Or an even planner can take the job on! Either way, on the day of, that stuff just isn't your problem!
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First. The term bridezilla kind of sucks.It's one of those terms that are rooted in the idea-however subconsciously- that assertive women are ridiculous for being assertive women. And further, that being assertive women, they are bossy and other B words, rather than confident, powerful, and intelligent. A bride that is called a bridezilla often takes offense. Which, she should as she has effectively been told that her wants and her assertion of those wants matter less or that she isn't expressing them in the right way. It's true that a brides wants shouldn't really supersede the well being or even the wants of anyone and everyone else. However, the idea that any bride that advocates for herself is a bridezilla needs to be squashed. Rather than naming a very specific behavior, it lumps together any bride - or person as it has branched out- that is unwilling to bend to any pressure as negative. Perhaps the problem isn't so much the word, but it's flippant use. The fact that it get's thrown around in order to tell a woman that she is being selfish and to get her to chill out is more manipulative than it is helpful. Name calling is incredibly powerful as it is the base of how we understand our world. Language is names: We attach experiences and meaning to a word (symbol) and then when we apply it to a thing, that thing becomes those meanings. In this case, the thing is a person. When you think about it, it isn't exactly fair to exert that kind of control over anyone (let alone a bride on her wedding day). So, when you hear the word 'bridezilla' and bad TV shows with crazy women come to mind, you can see the problem with calling any bride or any woman bridezilla; erasing her identity and rewriting it with her new name.
So, how do we keep from resorting to the bridezilla?
- If you feel walked over, talk about it.
- Just because we're suggesting it's not fair to label your bride as bridezilla, doesn't mean you shouldn't express the fact that you don't feel heard. Create a conversation that says just that, rather than an accusation that is demoralizing.
- Ask why.
- If your bride is being really specific in what seems to be an unnecessary way, try asking why. Most of the time, understanding motive deflates any frustration you may feel as you triple check ribbon lengths.
- Take a step back.
- If you feel yourself heading to the bridezilla zone, take a step back. Don't walk out, but look at the big picture that maybe even your bride can't see right now. Wedding planning is a huge stress on everyone, but a lot of that stress rests on the bride's shoulders. See that and your might see her a little differently.
1) Keep it Balanced:Some couples look at a wedding registry and think of it as an opportunity to get everything high end and others feel bad about asking their friends and family to spend money on them and register for the cheapest versions of everything they need. The goal is to keep it balanced. Decide on what items you want to last and choose the better and more expensive version. Then, items that don't need to cost $50, like a toothbrush holder, maybe pick what is practical.
2) Be Specific:It might be frustrating if your not sure what you want exactly or you might be trying to give your guests options, but being general or giving multiple options for the same product can be annoying. For example, you don't need to register for three toasters of three different prices. Just pick the one you want and if you don't get it, buy the one you can afford. Or, you may just end up with three toasters and no gift receipts.
3) Keep it Together:This kind of goes along with number two in that you don't want to have your wedding guests trying to decipher your registry. So, if you have a very specific wish list from many different shops, then you''ll want to use a website our app that lets you have multiple shops on one registry. Imagine your registry insert listing ten different shops! No bueno! Also, just like with number two, don't put the same item on different registries. No need to worry about if your guests frequent one shop over the other. That's not a real turn off for gift buying for a special occasion.
4) Go Beyond the Kitchen:Chances are, you have the basics for a college dorm and are going to need a lot in order to have a fully loaded kitchen with knives that don't rust after their first use. Furthermore, kitchen items add up fast, so you may be tempted to fill your registry with kitchen items and then you forget to thoughtfully decide on items for your living space, bathroom, bedroom and even your lifestyle. One example of a great forgotten gift due to the kitchenware mania board games! Board games are so seventh grade? Try hosting a night in with friends and twiddle your thumbs awkwardly after dinner.
What other tips would you give to a new bride and groom as they create their wedding registry?
Top Wedding GiftsRaise your hand if you have a wedding invitation posted on your fridge and need to find the perfect wedding gift! Take a look at these top three wedding gifts that every newlywed couple wishes they had!
1) Kitchen Aid Standing MixerThe Kitchen Aid standing mixer is the premier standing mixer for households from beginning to more professional levels of cooking and baking. What makes this product great is that it really is high quality and the couple won't have to replace it any time soon. Furthermore, it is really customizable to the couple's wants and needs; this customization includes the color, style, and size, as well as the many different attachments. This makes the Kitchen Aid standing mixer a top choice for a wedding gift.
2) High Quality Pots and PansPots and pans are one of the number one household items that are taken for granted and that can make all the difference in a couples family dinner game. It may be a good idea to either go off the couples registry or ask if they prefer copper, stainless steal, or ceramic, etc. This may not be the most important decision they make in life, but it is a pretty big one.
3) Gift CardsA lot of people think that gift cards are not personal enough for a wedding gift. However, as many newlyweds will tell you, pulling out that $100 gift card when they need it most is a pretty spectacular gift. One bride even said that she had forgotten about a gift card and found it about three months after the wedding. "It was so awesome! I thought it was a $5 gift card that I got in a promotional purchase, but it turned out to have over $100 on it and covered everything we needed and still had some left over. BEST. GIFT. EVER!"
First stop: How involved do you need the maid of honor to be?This is the first stop because it is probably the most important factor to consider. If your maid of honor will need to take on responsibilities like planning a shower, bachelorette party, attending any and all dress fittings for yourself and your bridesmaids, coordinating the flowers, picking up GiGi from the airport (we could go on and on), then it is really going to narrow down who you should choose as your maid of honor. Once you have determined what you need, consider the following:
- It may not be a good fit if who you want is not yet an adult. One bride said she regretted asking her 16 year old sister to serve as maid of honor. They were close and she didn't think she needed too much help with the wedding, but she ended up needing more than the sister could handle. Turned out that even the smallest tasks were too much for her. The bride either had to do it completely by herself or be dissapointed.
- This one can be hard because the person that you want to be your maid of honor may just live too far away to help. If you choose to have a maid of honor that lives more than 30 minutes away, just be sure that your expectations are consistent with how hard it will be for her to step up. Some brides will even choose to have co-maids of honor to balance it out.
Second Stop: What emotions are going to be involved?What we mean by this is that choosing a maid of honor may involve a bit of drama. For example, we had a bride tell us that she really wanted her best friend to be her maid of honor. However she had a childhood friend who wanted to be it too. So when it came to decide, she chose her current best friend and her other friend refused to attend the wedding. This doesn't mean that you should make your decision around other people's feelings. It is your wedding. However, it may be a good idea to make sure your aware of any complicated reactions to your choice. If you are particularly nervous about this possibility, try reading our blog "How to Tell Someone They Won't be a Bridesmaid" to get some guidance.
First: Mental PreparationThe first thing you need isn't the wedding survival kit. You will want that, but first you have to accept that in all likelihood something will go wrong. It could be something small; like a groomsmen might wear the wrong colored socks. Or it could be something big; like the caterer mistook your order and instead of bringing enough food for 500 people, they bring enough for 50. Either way, if you accept it now, even if it is stressful, it won't completely ruin your day. Though, a catering mishap like that would be completely understandable to freak out over!
Next: Make a listDelegate! I know some brides don't want to let go of the control, but it's in your best interest if you do. Take an evening with your groom and make a list of all the things you are most worried about. What do you think is going to go wrong? Then pick a person for each worry and put them in charge of making sure that it won't happen. Your bridal party members are perfect for this! However, if your big worry is that the best man will forget to pick up grammy from the airport, maybe assign someone else to remind him or to just take over that task for him!
Then: Make a contingency plan for the major detailsThis is along the same lines as number two, but with a focus on the BIG things and not so much on the little details. For example, if the catering mishap described at the beginning of the blog did happen, what would be your back up plan? Take a look at the biggest part of the wedding - your venue, caterer, photographer, entire floral delivery - and decide on back ups if they should somehow fall through.
Finally: Bring a Wedding Survival KitNow this is one that you can just buy, pack in your bag, and then just know you are covered! Get a "Personalized Vintage Clutch" survival kit here with emergency items, such as bobby pins and a sewing kit. Then, if anything should happen to your hair, your dress, your mother's dress - you know you got it covered! There are even some for the groom!
What is the number one mistake made while wedding planning?Wedding planning can be stressful. There are so many little details that go into planning the perfect wedding. From the cake topper, to the wedding shoes, brides and grooms comb over every detail to make their wedding day perfect. Sometimes things go wrong. For example, your cake might melt and start to slant because it was put in the sun. Those types of "mistakes" are not however going to make or break the wedding day. This isn't going to be a list of mistakes a bride can make when planning her wedding day that includes picking the right brides maid gifts. That type of shopping advice can come another day. Are you ready to know what is the biggest mistake a bride and groom can make? Here it is: The number one mistake during wedding planning is thinking that the wedding day is actually the most important day of your lives.
What is the most important day of a bride and groom's life?The wedding day is a spectacular, special day for a couple in love. BUT, it is not the most important day in a married couples life. Those days come later - and aren't so much days, but moments. Having the perfect wedding dress will be overshadowed by the moment you have your first fight, but know that no matter what its going to be okay because you made a vow for better or for worse. Smashing cake in your spouses face will be out-shinned when you're vomiting and your significant other runs in to hold your hair away from your face. The most important day are all the days in your happily ever after. So when your shopping for the perfect wedding accessories, make sure your having fun! Enjoy the moment and don't tear yourself into pieces about something not being perfect! You are in love! And while you are enjoying the bliss of wedding planning love, take a look at Wedding Collectibles wedding cake toppers; because buying a wedding cake topper here, will never be a mistake
Beach Wedding Ideas
If you’re having a destination wedding or simply want to add a touch of sand and sun to your wedding at home, our Beach Wedding ideas series is for you. Part one was posted a few weeks back, make sure to scroll down for those ideas after reading this one!
First up is our rhinestone and seashell beach wedding unity candle set. It comes complete with the unity candle and tapers accented with accented with shells, rhinestones, faux pearls, and an organza bow. Reminder: the candleholder is not included.
One of our all time favorite beach wedding ideas is this shell boutonniere for the groom/groomsmen. It is a simple detail that will bring out the beach at any event!
These beach chair photo frames are an adorable way to bring a little beach to your big day. Available in white, these mini chairs can hold one photo each and would be perfect on top of a cake, on your guest book table, or simply as a beach centerpiece on your reception tables.
Speaking of guest book table, this guest book/pen combo features a starfish decor that will be sure to have your guests thinking sand, sun, and salty breeze! Available in two colors, white book with a silver pen or an ivory book with a gold pen. A perfect option for any destination weddings!
To compliment your guest book, this starfish and shell beach ring pillow doesn’t get any better. Grab your little man and give him the most important job! The pillow is decorated with a delicate starfish and polished abalone shell with heart-shaped faux pearl accents, and the starfish features a rhinestone and faux pearl accent. Available in white satin!
For the little girl in your life, this flower girl basket is the matching pair to the above pillow. The starfish and shell perfectly match the pillow and the basket is available wrapped in satin.
The easiest way to incorporate the beach into your wedding day is to add a beach wedding cake topper. This one includes a barefoot couple kissing on the sand, and is a sweet addition to any cake table.
Bachelorette Party Ideas
There are so many ways to make your final fling unique, and we have tons of bachelorette party ideas to get you started! From outfits and decor to favors and gifts, everything you need to have a good time is available. Check out our list of top ideas and must have items before you finish your planning!
No bachelorette party is complete without the bride standing out! This veil and sash set is the perfect way to keep the attention on the bride to be. Available in crisp white, satin and trimmed in black, this sash can be accented with free personalization in one of today’s hottest weeding colors, as well as your choice of text.
Give your bridesmaids a gift to remember with these hot pink bachelorette koozies to keep their drinks cold! Not only are they perfect for partying on the town, but the girls can keep them as a party favor.
Spice up your evening with this fab figurine shot glass! Add a mix of fun with the gorgeous bride figurine dressed up in her party dress and ready to go out with glitz and striking details. Grab one for all of your bridesmaids and don’t forget one for yourself!
If your girl’s aren’t beer drinkers, these custom martini glasses will be a much better fit. A decal on the front of the glass reads “CAUTION Bachelorette Party in Progress” with a series of hot pink warning triangles decorate the glass and the base. Also available in a version for the bride!streaming Power Rangers 2017 film
Whether you have a group of girls you’ve known forever or a mixture of ladies from all walks of life, these bachelorette party coasters are a great way to get to know each other better. Each 4″ x 4″ coaster has a unique conversation-starting question that will give everyone something to talk about for hours.
Maybe your girls are more into wine? These adorable wine charms add flare to any wine glass for an evening of fun! The charms have a metal loop with pink and black beads that unhooks and wraps around the stem of a wine glass. The six different charm sayings included are: “Approach With Caution,” “CAUTION Bachelorette Party in Progress,” “Fling Before the Ring,” “Kiss the Bride” and two versions of “Girls Night Out.”
As you can see there are many bachelorette party ideas that can be incorporated into your final fling bash. Choose the ones that are best for you and let’s get the party started!